When I was excitedly telling a friend about connecting with someone after many years, she told me sarcastically to see how long that would last. I was taken aback initially. Later I realized she was right.
I have had a few experiences where I started off on a great note with a friend. After the initial excitement of starting a new friendship starts to wear off, there are signs of disinterest. The conversations gradually move to formalities and the other person starts showing signs of disinterest. That is when I know it is coming to an end. Being some one who wouldn't easily give up on friendship, I tried my best to keep it going. When I realized that it was just not going to happen, I finally gave up and it just fizzled out.
On the other hand, some old friendships have stood the test of times and the bond has only grown stronger over the years.
My friend went on to say, "R, when I talk to someone after many years, I cannot be expected to pick up from where I left. Iam not going to open up and share all my life events, my problems with that person immediately. It is going to take some time. Only after we spend a lot of time together, will I move on to talk about more personal stuff."
She was right as well. It takes a lot of time and patience to build a friendship that would last. There is no easy way.
Why do some friendships last longer than others. I guess it depends on how much the two people like each other, trust each other and are committed to that friendship. Otherwise the friendship will just fade.
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