A few days back, when I heard about the house warming ceremony that happened in the family, the topic moved to which couple had actually performed the puja during the ceremony. The family members who owned the house could not preside over the rituals. The reason was simple - the mother was a widow and the two sons were single.
I have never fully understood if this is done for religious reasons or if it is a social norm. On many occasions, I have seen the bride or bride groom's mother or father not participating in the wedding rites because they were single. I could imagine how much it would have hurt them to see their children moving on to the next phase in life and not being able to be a part of it.
The unfairness of the system had always made me question the practice. Why shouldn't a single man or woman perform the rites. Why do we really need a couple to perform the rites.
In this case, it was the sons's hard earned money and the mother's hard work that went into constructing that house. They can ask an elderly couple to perform rites out of love, respect, belief that they will bring good luck. They shouldn't be doing this because they had no way out owing to their marital status.
This is not right and being single does not mean people are unlucky. .
As we move forward to a better future, it is high time, we all break a few unfair social norms.
I have never fully understood if this is done for religious reasons or if it is a social norm. On many occasions, I have seen the bride or bride groom's mother or father not participating in the wedding rites because they were single. I could imagine how much it would have hurt them to see their children moving on to the next phase in life and not being able to be a part of it.
The unfairness of the system had always made me question the practice. Why shouldn't a single man or woman perform the rites. Why do we really need a couple to perform the rites.
In this case, it was the sons's hard earned money and the mother's hard work that went into constructing that house. They can ask an elderly couple to perform rites out of love, respect, belief that they will bring good luck. They shouldn't be doing this because they had no way out owing to their marital status.
This is not right and being single does not mean people are unlucky. .
As we move forward to a better future, it is high time, we all break a few unfair social norms.
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