How many times have I heard about this phrase - Respond, but do not react. It has been discussed and has been a part of most of the leadership and management training's that I had been part of.
Sometimes, one loses control and immediately reacts to a situation. And that is when all the learning's go for a toss. Reacting to a situation always brings in negativity. You don't really think what you say and when you add in anger into the mix, things go out of control. You lose your patience and only think about lashing out on others who disagree with you. By the time you realize what happened, the damage is already done. This worsens relationship.
It took me more than a day to realize what I was doing. Self realization kicked in and I realized that I was losing my composure and reacting to small things a lot in the past few weeks or months. I was just not myself.
Everyone is so different and have their own perspectives, views. They make their own choices. As a friend rightly said, you can only show them the right path. But the decision on what path to take, lies solely on them. And there is no way, you can change someone's views by just reacting to a situation.
When this understanding dawned on me, I decided to take a step back. I decided that no matter what, am just going to shut up and not reply at all or initiate any conversations. This doesn't mean am going to not respond at all in my life. But this self isolation for a few days, will help to clear my mind and help me get back to my normal self. This is a cool-off time, Iam giving in to myself.
After that, Iam hoping that I will be able to respond to any situation (good or bad) in a positive way.
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