We can crib all that we want. But the fact is that technology has helped us in staying connected with people we know. I don't want to dwell on the benefits and problems caused by technology, on how mobile phones have invaded our personal lives. That is a topic for another day.
All I wanted to write was about the confusion I have before I send a message on whatsapp to a friend or to a group chat. On many occasions, I would type in the message and delete it before hitting the send button. On the other hand, there have been instances where I had sent a message and then felt that I shouldn't have done it. Whatsapp allows a person to delete the message before it has been delivered - a big thanks to them. Still, there is no way you can delete a message that has already been delivered.
Why do I have this confusion. Aren't these people all friends. What is the whole point in adding them as friends in your contact when you cannot share your thoughts. I don't have a definite answer to this. It depends on the level of friendship that you have with that person. I know that some people would accept me the way Iam, they would never judge me. While the others who don't know me well would be quick to form an opinion of me.
There is another reason for this - a message could always be misinterpreted. It is not the same as having a face to face conversation. I have to be conscious on what I message to a friend or to a group.
I remember the times when I had really wanted to participate in a particular conversation in a group and then decided that it is not my place to do that. It was the fear of acceptance and the interpretation of the message - what if people laugh at my message, what if they thought I was trying to convey something else??
That is why I try to be cautious when I send a message to a friend or a whatsapp group and ask myself the question - should I or shouldn't I send this message??
Of course, there have been times when I had ignored the tiny inner voice that told me not to send the message and lamented my mistake later.
All I wanted to write was about the confusion I have before I send a message on whatsapp to a friend or to a group chat. On many occasions, I would type in the message and delete it before hitting the send button. On the other hand, there have been instances where I had sent a message and then felt that I shouldn't have done it. Whatsapp allows a person to delete the message before it has been delivered - a big thanks to them. Still, there is no way you can delete a message that has already been delivered.
Why do I have this confusion. Aren't these people all friends. What is the whole point in adding them as friends in your contact when you cannot share your thoughts. I don't have a definite answer to this. It depends on the level of friendship that you have with that person. I know that some people would accept me the way Iam, they would never judge me. While the others who don't know me well would be quick to form an opinion of me.
There is another reason for this - a message could always be misinterpreted. It is not the same as having a face to face conversation. I have to be conscious on what I message to a friend or to a group.
I remember the times when I had really wanted to participate in a particular conversation in a group and then decided that it is not my place to do that. It was the fear of acceptance and the interpretation of the message - what if people laugh at my message, what if they thought I was trying to convey something else??
That is why I try to be cautious when I send a message to a friend or a whatsapp group and ask myself the question - should I or shouldn't I send this message??
Of course, there have been times when I had ignored the tiny inner voice that told me not to send the message and lamented my mistake later.
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